The invisible requirements

Everyday life today involves many different tasks, which cannot always all be completed on the same day. There is not always enough time, to do everything, what to do, if you had enough time. For example, you may have wanted to install a new sink for a long time, renovate a room, or meet again with one … Continue reading “The invisible requirements”

Everyday life today involves many different tasks, which cannot always all be completed on the same day. There is not always enough time, to do everything, what to do, if you had enough time. For example, you may have wanted to install a new sink for a long time, renovate a room, or meet up with a friend, but don't get there, because they simply don't have any time apart from their everyday work.

Such a lifestyle is problematic and actually pre-programs the emergence of stress. In practice, however, it also happens very often, that you sit at your desk or at the breakfast table in the morning and think, what to do during the day.

A mental list emerges, and you quickly tick off a few things: "I'll do that tomorrow, or next week.” The tasks of the day remain, that you overcome, to relax after a certain working time.

Postponing work is a very legitimate method, to bring order to everyday life. Tasks that have been postponed may not really be manageable in one day, so you should be aware, that it would certainly not be good for personal satisfaction, if you had made up your mind, to do all these tasks in one day.

But some things disappear from our list. We're not doing them today, not tomorrow and not the day after tomorrow, until we are no longer aware of it, that we still have to do it. At some point, however, comes the unpleasant realization: "I still have to do that!“

If it's a single, unpleasant task, this is usually not a problem: we overcome ourselves, get to work and will probably have it done pretty soon.

Unfortunately, this is not the norm. Many people “accumulate” such forgotten tasks so far, until they become a real burden. Suddenly it's not just the sink anymore, what we have been putting off for weeks – cleaning up the basement has become his task, organizing the photo collection and clearing out the attic. All tasks together have such scope, that we feel completely exhausted and demotivated, before we've even done anything.

Such conditions evoke a fairly simple response in our body: we remember the multitude of collected tasks, frighten us and are demotivated. The result is a feeling of being overwhelmed. However, being overwhelmed creates stress – we are afraid, of not being able to cope with our everyday life and find ourselves in a state of tension, without actually doing an exceptional amount of work.