Stress is an unpleasant and often difficult to avoid problem, but with which one must maintain a productive relationship, if you want to maintain your physical and mental well-being in the long term.
Do not postpone changing your stress balance until tomorrow, but they work (with the appropriate tips, which you can find here) how they deal with stress on a daily basis.
An important point, for example, is the isolation of the so-called stressors. This is what is meant in stress research, which often “overwhelm us”, so requirements, which we perceive as a real burden.
Stressoren können viele verschiedene Gesichter haben – a death in the family can increase stress, as can a breakup, a move or unemployment. Life crises can have a variety of negative effects on the body's budget.
But not only extreme psychological situations can act as stressors. Also daily, annoying little things (based on the American model, it is also often referred to as "daily hazzles" in Germany) can cause unpleasant and unhealthy stress.
Her husband left the tube of toothpaste open once again? Your colleague drank the last coffee, without making new ones? Or your child tries again and again, washing his toys in the toilet bowl?
All of these are small, actually seemingly insignificant factors, which, however, can escalate into stressors. That's the bad thing about stress - it's cumulative. Things, which they actually easily endured in the past, suddenly annoy her, when they are stressed, and they swear at seeming insignificance, because they have too much anger pent up on their daily and major stressors.
Therefore it is very important, that they experience, what stresses them so much in their everyday life and in their special situation, that they suffer.
Although the variety of stressors makes a comprehensive listing of all possible factors impossible, there are still some options, to work out and recognize the points, which may be typical of people in their situation.
For example, a distinction is made between physical stressors, performance stressors and social stressors. All three can have similar unpleasant effects, differ fundamentally in their origin.
Physical stressors, for example, are related in one way or another to the realities of their environment. Typical stressors in this category are poor lighting at work, noise in your own home (or in the office), Draft, unpleasant working hours or traffic jams on the way to work or to go shopping.
These stressors are sometimes easy to change from the outside - maybe they can take over other layers, when they feel overwhelmed, or they go shopping at other times, but often it is not in their personal power, just turn those stressors off.
Performance stressors are closely related to the responsibilities of daily living, and affect us all. If they suffer severely from performance stressors, they typically feel overwhelmed, bored or afraid of failure; Monotonous work can also cause stress, as can work that is too fast-moving and challenging.
Be sure to, how they deal with the responsibilities of their lives - burden them more, as they fulfill them? If so, they are likely suffering from performance stressors.
Finally, social stressors cause stress, which is based on interpersonal relationships. Here, too, the possibilities are manifold – perhaps they are suffering from conflicts at work or at home, they feel lonely or seem to get too little recognition for their achievements. Closed behavior is typical of social stressors, in which they have particular difficulties in contact with people.
Now if you've narrowed it down, in which area they feel the most stress, then they can take care of it, to consider the critical situations in detail.
With a little practice, it will soon no longer be a problem for them, to recognize such occurrences - maybe they feel bad, when they see a specific person, or they recognize their own displeasure at taking on a stressful job. Take a few days, to observe yourself and to recognize the situations and to clarify them with yourself.
Is your stress really unfounded?? It is possible, that they feel burdened by situations, which in fact are not worth it, or that they feel stress from meeting someone, even if there is no real reason for it.
But maybe they will, that they really experience some situations in their everyday life, which are very uncomfortable for them and which, despite all insight, are really stressful.
No matter, whether they feel too much stress for no reason or with seemingly good reason, they recognize stress by it, that the situation has them under control and not the other way around.
Stress is characterized by a loss of control, time pressure and tension, three typical factors, that many people know from their everyday lives.
So now you have recognized it, that they are under stress. But what can you do about it?? Just the knowledge, that the stress may not be justified, doesn't fix it yet.
You need to, so that they can deal positively with their stress, recognize yourself in your stress.
The first step to this development is knowing about your stress personality. Individuals deal with stress quite differently, however, do show clear similarities, which is why we speak of two types of stress, characterized by certain behaviors.
Type A is characteristic of humans, who are short-tempered, easily excitable and prone to nervous reactions. If you are under constant stress, you can expect problems with your blood pressure or your heart.
Type B, in turn, characterizes humans, who often appear surprisingly calm on the outside, because they "swallow" their anger. That ends up in the stomach: they are particularly prone to stomach problems during prolonged stress- and intestinal problems up to ulcers